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Fri, 02 Jul 2010 05:27:32 +0000

[...] 1-4-2010 Sticky Situations: Ask Yasmina #11- Inappropriate Audience Members, Competitive Teachers, Fickle St… by Yasmina RamzyTrying to please and appease those who already disrespect you leads to a miserable dead end. My advice is to say "NO" and give the inappropriately behaved person a good wack across the face. [...]

By: Anthe

Anthe — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 18:50:19 +0000

Comment on Question 3: I believe your response was well written, however I don’t feel that you truly touched on the REASON why students become obsessed with instructors, which will be beneficial for teachers to understand so that they can better handle the situation. I believe that students become obsessed because when preparing them for their first few performances, an instructor will spend MUCH more time than is the norm for say a more veteran student. In the process of spending a lot of time with the student, an intimate relationship is formed. For the instructor this is business, however, the student comes to look at the instructor as this ALL KNOWING individual who gives much positive reinforcement and attention. When the performance is finished, to the instructor that much attentino is no longer needed to be given to the student. But the student doesn’t understand this and begins to resent the instructor for not giving all their time to them like before.

By: Ask Yasmina #12 | Belly Dance News & Events - Gilded Serpent

Ask Yasmina #12 | Belly Dance News & Events - Gilded Serpent — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 23:26:08 +0000

[...] 1-4-2010 Sticky Situations: Ask Yasmina #11- Inappropriate Audience Members, Competitive Teachers, Fickle St… by Yasmina Ramzy Trying to please and appease those who already disrespect you leads to a miserable dead end. My advice is to say "NO" and give the inappropriately behaved person a good wack across the face. [...]

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Digital Dancer! | Belly Dance News & Events - Gilded Serpent — Wed, 17 Feb 2010 06:42:56 +0000

[...] 1-4-2010 Sticky Situations: Ask Yasmina #11- Inappropriate Audience Members, Competitive Teachers, Fickle St… by Yasmina Ramzy Trying to please and appease those who already disrespect you leads to a miserable dead end. My advice is to say "NO" and give the inappropriately behaved person a good wack across the face. [...]

By: Linda

Linda — Thu, 04 Feb 2010 15:44:08 +0000

I know every area is different but unless it’s a non-profit show or something you are doing for a friend, I think you shouldn’t even put on marscara for less than $100 US for a very very short private party. $300 is not off the mark for a nice long show or set of short/medium shows. Restaurants can be different depending on how long/often you’re there. She’s right, belly dance is not your only option for making money. I think we forget that sometimes. If you really love the dance but can’t seem to get jobs for reasonable rates, you are either not ready for the gigs or the area you live in is not ready to support a professional dancer. Either way, you should stick to community-based pro bono work.

By: Amazar

Amazar — Wed, 27 Jan 2010 21:31:57 +0000

I actually have worked in a dance move to avoid being touched by audience members; pivot & spin. Only one time did someone who should have known better catch me off guard; a Persian woman shoved a $5 in my cleavage & I patted her hand & looked “playfully” shocked & waved “no-no” with my finger.

By: Beth Syrnyk

Beth Syrnyk — Wed, 27 Jan 2010 18:54:15 +0000

In regard to Question #1 – I completely agree with Yasmina, you are an artist and have spent money and many hours training to become a dancer. You deserve respect and a proper wage for your efforts. If you cannot get a good wage and respect don’t do it! Would you work for a lecherous man for half the minimum wage just to have any job?

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By: Pauline Costianes

Pauline Costianes — Mon, 11 Jan 2010 23:46:52 +0000

With regards to question #2, I think it depends on how it is handled.
If you know of someone who has bad technique, enough to get a student injured in the long run; or of someone who has had a long
history of mistreating students, then I think a gentle mention of
what is correct and what is not correct in a teacher (such as listed
on our website http://www.troupetaamulat.org under Tips for Looking
For a Teacher) might be worth it for the student’s sake.