{"id":5458,"date":"2014-10-17T13:22:35","date_gmt":"2014-10-17T20:22:35","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.gildedserpent.com\/cms\/?p=5458"},"modified":"2014-10-17T13:22:35","modified_gmt":"2014-10-17T20:22:35","slug":"najia-retirement","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/www.gildedserpent.com\/cms\/2014\/10\/17\/najia-retirement\/","title":{"rendered":"Retirement"},"content":{"rendered":"<h2> Is There Life After Dance?<\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" src=\"http:\/\/www.gildedserpent.com\/art62\/graphics62\/Najia\/StudentDancer-Najia.jpg\" class=\"floatright\" width=\"300\" height=\"560\" alt=\"Najia as student\" \/><\/p>\n<h3>by <a href=\"http:\/\/www.gildedserpent.com\/najia\/index.htm\">Najia Marlyz<\/a><br \/>\n\t\t\t\t<span class=\"footnotes\">posted October 17, 2014<\/span><\/h3>\n<blockquote>\n<h6> A Yiddish proverb says: &ldquo;Men  tracht, und Gott lacht.&rdquo;<br \/>\n    A rough translation of this  proverb into English is: &ldquo;Men plan and God laughs.&rdquo;&#8230;or:<br \/>\n    &ldquo;If you want to hear God  laugh, tell Him you have a plan!&rdquo;&#8211;quotation derived by Woody Allen<\/h6>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p>Perhaps this was my mistake; I  had a plan for my dance career, and I was not shy to tell it to everyone who  would listen. My goal was to dance as long or longer than my dance heroine,  Martha Graham, who performed until she was 92 (when she proceeded to drink  herself into toxic alcoholism, which was definitely not part of my plan). At  some point in the mid-1980s, a close friend and dance student of one of my own  dance students actually expired while performing onstage at a <em>hafla<\/em>! Her  death fomented a great many comments among the bellydancers of the day about  how heroic that would be to die, doing what you love\u2014dancing. However, I found  the idea repulsive and still find it abhorrent because dying onstage would  shatter the foundational trust between a performer and the audience: that is,  people attend a performance to be entertained, inspired, and distracted from  reality; not to be confronted by death itself! It is an unspoken contract  between performer and audience so to aspire to croak while onstage would  violate that trust in my eyes, unless you (as a member of an audience) have  come to the Roman Coliseum to witness the death of the Christians in the teeth  of wild beasts! Then, I suppose, death becomes the dancer.<\/p>\n<p>Having said this brings me to  the question that is the elephant in the dance studio: <strong>Is there life after  dance? <\/strong>The dancer spends her career perfecting her technique, building her  knowledge of the culture and music, assembling and reassembling her costume wardrobe  and collecting her accolades until all of it interacts together inside her  being like a life sustaining and seductive drug. How can there be a life after  dance that would be as satisfying? Would you settle for &ldquo;sort of&rdquo; satisfying or  maybe just &ldquo;okay?&rdquo; If we had to diagram the dilemma like diagramming an English  sentence, we might find dancing in the center of everything with peripheral  activities such as teaching, coaching, writing about dance, designing and  vending\u00a0 sparkling items as offshoots from  the central interest\u2014the doing of it.<\/p>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" src=\"http:\/\/www.gildedserpent.com\/art62\/graphics62\/Najia\/Martha54.jpg\" alt=\"Martha Graham at 54\" width=\"288\" height=\"359\" align=\"left\" \/>Nevertheless, I had been  outspoken about my plan, seldom pausing to think that I could be thwarted by  fate quite easily. I discovered, after an insightful walk on the beach five  years ago, that a small blemish on my right foot could be skin cancer and  realized I should have it examined by a specialist. Oh, yes! It proved to be  the most dangerous type of skin cancer\u2014the one that has no cure as of this  date: Melanoma. I quickly had the tiny thing removed from the top of my foot  and paid little heed to the surgeon&#8217;s warning that the operation would leave a  scar (Who cares? There is stage makeup to cover it.) and my surgery could  possibly result in nerve damage and a weakness in the foot structure. &ldquo;Not  mine; dancers are athletes, accustomed to dealing with and healing injuries,&rdquo; I  reasoned.<\/p>\n<p class=\"highlight\">\n  My plan remained  intact; the site would heal, I would strengthen my foot, and I would continue  to dance.<\/p>\n<p>During the last phone call  that I received from my dance partner, <a href=\"http:\/\/www.gildedserpent.com\/aboutuspages\/bert.htm\"><span class=\"artist\">Bert Balladine<\/span><\/a>, he asked me if my foot  had fully healed and if I were able to dance again. &ldquo; Yes!&rdquo; I answered  confidently, so he advised: &ldquo;Good! Continue to dance and teach as long as you  can, Najia, because both you and I have stayed too long at the fair. It is too  late to start over in something new, and you have become really phenomenal at  what you do and how you teach it.&rdquo; When we finished our phone conversation, I  had the niggling feeling that I would be thinking about this whole subject  again, but I had no idea how soon it would be. Six months later, only one month  after Bert, my  friend and mentor died, and after I had struggled  with all my might to regain my dance, I underwent another terrifying operation  accompanied by six weeks of daily radiation to remove an embryonic stage of  breast cancer!<\/p>\n<p class=\"highlight\">  &ldquo;Don&#8217;t give up,&rdquo; everyone  encouraged. &ldquo;You did it before. You are a cancer survivor and you can do it  again.&rdquo;<\/p>\n<p>I believed them and believed  in myself and my dance. However, it was a lot harder to heal the wounds of  radiation treatment than it was for me to come to terms with the odd shape the  dimpled scar left in my breast. &ldquo;Never mind,&rdquo; I told myself. &ldquo;Lovely breasts  are not crucial in the dance\u2014there is always costuming that can make them  appear as if they were&#8230;&rdquo; I returned to dance, egged on by the memory of Bert  having told me about his learning ballet movements from aged ballerinas who  could only sit on a chair with their gnarly legs askew, thumping the dance  floor with a hefty cane to punctuate the Russian commands they wanted obeyed.  If the crone divas could do it, I could do it, and after all, Martha Graham had  danced until she was 92 years old&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>My semi-restored condition  lasted only a few months until I tore the meniscus of my left knee from dancing  on the wonky foot that had been injured by the cancer operation and subsequent  infection and death of the skin graft it took to repair it. An orthopedic  surgeon repaired it, and I went to six months of physical therapy.<\/p>\n<p class=\"highlight\">\n  Once again I  returned to dance\u2014albeit less sure of myself.<\/p>\n<p>By that time, I had become  accustomed to waiting for the other shoe to drop, and sure enough, it did. I  threw away nearly all of my shoes because all of them hurt my foot and made it  sore and red on top. Then, one day, out of the redness of the top of my foot  emerged a sharp and pointed, blue plastic thread. I went back to the surgeon  who pulled on it with a pair of tweezers. Yank! Yank! &ldquo;Humm,&rdquo; he mused, &ldquo;It  won&#8217;t come out. I guess it has grown into your flesh,&rdquo; and he deftly snipped  off the blue plastic he had pulled out. The remainder slipped back inside as he  said, &ldquo;Sometimes we just have to leave it there.&rdquo; I went home and waited for my  foot to heal again so that I could return to dance, but my foot did not heal. I  found it difficult just to walk. I found another surgeon who was willing to  open my foot another time and take out the tangle of blue plastic thread that  had been used to sew my original melanoma site closed. Two inches of thread\u2014knotted  about every quarter inch. It had been a &ldquo;purse closure suture&rdquo; he told me in  the operating room as he walked around showing it to everyone present. <\/p>\n<p class=\"highlight\">Finally, I began to  walk for exercise and began to attempt to dance once again!<\/p>\n<p> Evidently, &ldquo;Gott lacht.&rdquo; Two  months later, I found myself back in the hospital for pneumonia. Even though I  had taken the pneumonia shot at the appropriate year, I developed pneumonia  anyway due to a lowered immune system brought on by the radiation treatments I  had had for the breast cancer. Additionally, that illness served to murder my  gallbladder. I went home wearing a large bile bag on about three feet of  flexible plastic tubing that collected bile for the next two months and had to  be measured and emptied twice per day. When I was deemed well enough, I  returned to the hospital O.R. to have the offending gallbladder removed along  with the bag and its tubing that had been inserted through my side into my now  damaged liver.<\/p>\n<p class=\"highlight\">\n  Finally, I was free  of the collection bag and ugly tubing, and I could return to dance!<\/p>\n<p>I had lost much of my student  dance clientele and worst of all, could barely walk, let alone dance. &ldquo;Don&#8217;t  give up! You can do it!&rdquo; everyone agreed. However, I was tired of repeated  struggle and my students were even more tired of seeing it. I was gradually &ldquo;dying  onstage,&rdquo; so to speak. Nonetheless, I had stayed too long at the fair, and in  order to remain part of the dance, I retired and took up coaching dance like  Bert&#8217;s little old crone ballerinas, perched on a chair and barking my orders\u2014but  without a cane. I found that the method works if you make it work, and if your  students believe in your hard-won expertise. Still, there are many young  dancers who cannot believe that an old woman could <em>ever<\/em> have been a  young leith dancer. They find it inconceivable to commit their dance egos to  the trial and error that must take place in order to mold the dancer into her  strongest version of her own body and her creative vision. I believe that the  dancer who does have the ability to see beyond what her reality is now, into  what she could become as a unique dancer with her own body type and her own  responses to music, is actually helped along by not having <em>my<\/em> body  demonstrate <em>my<\/em> dance, causing her to attempt copying what <em>I<\/em> had  been able perform.<\/p>\n<p>Like my late instructor, Bert,  my career has filled me full of stories of gigs and colorful events surrounding  the dance that have served to inspire me and bring more meaning into dance  movements. Life and misfortune have forced me to retire from performing, and I  have been periodically relegated to a chair, vocalizing  my vision of the  possibility for moving an audience&#8217;s emotions that resides in our music. All I  have to do really, is teach confidence by coaching my clients to explore unique  ways to listen analytically, with imagination, creativity, and a sense of  humor. I encourage my clients to conjure mind images and foster adaptation of  them into movement. As long as there are young dancers who aspire to become  more than mere replicas of other dancers, there will always be &ldquo;a life after  dance&rdquo; for me whether I can walk or not.<\/p>\n<p class=\"highlight\">  &ldquo;I am and always will be a  dancer; listen to my cane thump on the dance room floor!&rdquo;<\/p>\n<p class=\"aligncenter\"><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" src=\"http:\/\/www.gildedserpent.com\/art62\/graphics62\/Najia\/Tips_AthenaT_email.jpg\" width=\"500\" height=\"389\" alt=\"Najia receives tips at Athena Taverna\" \/><\/p>\n<\/p>\n<h5>Resources:<\/h5>\n<ul>\n<li>\n<h6><a href=\"http:\/\/www.gildedserpent.com\/najia\/index.htm\">Author&#8217;s bio page<\/a><\/h6>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"http:\/\/www.gildedserpent.com\/graphics\/acommentbox.jpg\" alt=\"use the comment box\" align=\"right\" \/><\/p>\n<div class=\"ready4more\">\n<p>Have a comment? Use or comment section at the bottom of this page or <a href=\"mailto:editor@gildedserpent.com\">Send us a letter!<\/a> <br \/>\nCheck the &quot;<a href=\"http:\/\/www.gildedserpent.com\/let2ed.htm\">Letters to the Editor<\/a>&quot; for other possible viewpoints!<\/p>\n<p>Ready for more?<\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<p>\t\t\t<!--end ready4more --><\/p>\n<div class=\"articlelist\">\n<ul>\n<li><span class=\"articledate\">-31-14<\/span> <a href=\"http:\/\/www.gildedserpent.com\/cms\/2014\/03\/31\/najia-marlyz-beata-1988\/\" class=\"articlelink\">Beata Zadou in 1988, Winter Visit to Berlin&#8217;s Snow Princess<\/a><span class=\"articleauthor\"> by Najia Marlyz<\/span><br \/>\n\t\t\t\t\t  It is rare that reality matches one\u2019s fantasy, but in this case, in 1988, my expectations were surpassed by the reality of wish-fulfillment.<\/li>\n<li><span class=\"articledate\">1-8-14<\/span> <span class=\"articlelink\">O <a href=\"http:\/\/www.gildedserpent.com\/cms\/2014\/01\/08\/najia-o-aitos-1970s-berkeley\/\">Aitos Berkeley in the &#8217;70s<\/a><\/span> <span class=\"articleauthor\">by Najia Marlyz<\/span><br \/>\n                      Truthfully, I had never laid eyes on an authentic belly dancer, live or on film at that point, so I hardly knew what to expect.<\/li>\n<li><span class=\"articledate\">7-16-13 <\/span><a href=\"http:\/\/www.gildedserpent.com\/cms\/2013\/07\/16\/der-schnerkle\/\"><span class=\"articlelink\">&quot;Der Schnerkle&quot; Its Proper Uses and Functions <\/span><\/a><span class=\"articleauthor\">by Najia Marlyz<\/span><br \/>\n                      Therefore, I reasoned, the use of ones extremities for dancing (beyond  transporting one across the stage or making a movement appear finished) was to  gather and distribute performance energy from the stage rather than simply wave  arms about in the air with artistry and grace.<\/li>\n<li><span class=\"articledate\">5-13-13<\/span><a href=\"http:\/\/www.gildedserpent.com\/cms\/2013\/05\/13\/najia-costuming-trends-1987\/\" class=\"articlelink\"> Costuming Trends of 1987, At the Rakkasah Festival<\/a><span class=\"articleauthor\"> by Najia Marlyz<\/span><br \/>\n                      Although the trend at Rakkasah &lsquo;87 was definitely toward better dancing than we have seen in the past; the costuming I saw would be high on anyone&rsquo;s list of worn-out ideas.\u00a0 Nowadays, we have more and more of almost everything; it is immediately apparent that there is more material in the skirts\u2014such as double skirts, ruffles, tatters, tiers, beads, and even elaborate sequined patterns, and embroidery.<\/li>\n<li><span class=\"articledate\">4-16-13<\/span> <a href=\"http:\/\/www.gildedserpent.com\/cms\/2013\/04\/16\/najia-bert-tale-of-the-rat\/\" class=\"articlelink\">Tale of the Rat, Beginning to Teach, Part One<\/a> <span class=\"articleauthor\">by Najia Marlyz<\/span><br \/>\n                      He warned me! My German speaking mentor and dance partner, Bert Balladine, told me one day that teaching would change my dance\u2014not necessarily for the better.<\/li>\n<li><span class=\"articledate\">3-11-13 <\/span><a href=\"http:\/\/www.gildedserpent.com\/cms\/2013\/03\/11\/najia-vintage-lace-costume\/\" class=\"articlelink\">The One-of-a-kind Costume Still Fascinates:Re-envision, Recycle, Renew, and Remember<\/a> <span class=\"articleauthor\">by Najia Marlyz<\/span><br \/>\n                      Sometimes, perhaps more often than not, those people whom we love, and those things that we enjoy doing, introduce new facets into our lives that change our perspective of what becomes important to us in the long run.<\/li>\n<li><span class=\"articledate\">1-18-13<\/span> <span class=\"articlelink\"><a href=\"http:\/\/www.gildedserpent.com\/cms\/2013\/01\/18\/cairo-revisited\/\">Cairo Revisited: Dancing into the \u201890s<\/a><\/span> <span class=\"articleauthor\">by Najia Marlyz<\/span><br \/>\n                    Originally written for Caravan Magazine 1992- The one thing on which you depend about dance in Egypt from year to year is that everything slowly changes. I\u2019ve returned to Cairo each year now for nine consecutive years, and last year my visit was just before the short war we had with Iraq in which Egypt was our US ally.  Cairenes seemed sad last year, because Cairo had lost most of its income from tourism, and many Egyptian nationals were returning from Iraq and Kuwait, where they no longer had employment.  I did not know what to expect this year, except the inevitable fact of surprising, yet subtle, change. <\/li>\n<li><span class=\"articledate\">9-30-14<\/span> <a href=\"http:\/\/www.gildedserpent.com\/cms\/2014\/09\/30\/terry-evening-of-egyptian-music\/\" class=\"articlelink\">An Evening of Egyptian Music and Dance, a Report from El Leil<\/a><span class=\"articleauthor\"> by Terry Del Giorno <\/span><br \/>\n                    Amina and the Aswan Dancers did it again! The sold out show at the Mission Cultural Center for Latino Arts was another stellar example of the kinds of show their fans have grown to expect and they have not yet been disappointed. <\/li>\n<li><span class=\"articledate\">9-12-14<\/span><span class=\"articlelink\"> <a href=\"http:\/\/www.gildedserpent.com\/cms\/2014\/09\/12\/the-best-of-british\">The Best of the British! The South of England Belly Dance Scene.<\/a><\/span> <span class=\"articleauthor\">by Sara Shrapnell<\/span><br \/>\n                    Like every area, the UK has seen an ebb and flow in the popularity of belly dance, the economic impact and the rise in popularity of fusions styles has changed the dance from when I first started twenty years ago. Yet I see a strong, healthy and supporting scene posed to expand when disposable income in the general population increases. <\/li>\n<li><span class=\"articledate\">9-6-14 <\/span><a href=\"http:\/\/www.gildedserpent.com\/cms\/2014\/09\/06\/naajidah-dont-come-whining-to-me\/\" class=\"articlelink\">Don&#8217;t Come Whining to Me! An Open Letter to Aspiring Young Belly Dancer<\/a> <span class=\"articleauthor\">by Naajidah and Ashiya<\/span><br \/>\n                    If you audition for a Greek restaurant \u2013 do NOT come to an audition with anything other than Greek music.<\/li>\n<li><span class=\"articledate\">9-1-14<\/span> <span class=\"articlelink\"><a href=\"http:\/\/www.gildedserpent.com\/cms\/2014\/09\/01\/a-journey-to-the-west-bank\/\">A Journey to the West Bank, A Lone Dancer Visits Palestine<\/a><\/span> <span class=\"articleauthor\">by Zaina Brown<\/span><br \/>\n                    The refugee children were dressed in sweatpants and T-shirts, like school kids anywhere in the world. The coach was in a tracksuit, and his stern voice echoed over the young crowd. It could easily have been a basketball game, or perhaps a rehearsal for a play, that was about to begin in this gymnastics hall. But this was a dance rehearsal <\/li>\n<li><span class=\"articledate\">7-31-14<\/span> <a href=\"http:\/\/www.gildedserpent.com\/cms\/2014\/07\/31\/margaretanne-pt-bellydancer-part2\/\" class=\"articlelink\">Patient is a Bellydancer, Part 2:The New Normal &amp; the Boring Reason I&#8217;ll Never Stop Dancing<\/a> <span class=\"articleauthor\">by Margaret Anne<\/span><br \/>\n                    What was once  an exercise in insanity is now how I hip drop and down walk.<\/li>\n<li><span class=\"articledate\">7-16-14<\/span> <a href=\"http:\/\/www.gildedserpent.com\/cms\/2014\/07\/16\/leila-farid-cultural-sensitivity\/\" class=\"articlelink\">Crossing the Chasm, Cultural Sensitivity and Bellydancing<\/a> <span class=\"articleauthor\">by Leila Farid<\/span><br \/>\n                    So how do we start to change the consciousness of people who see our profession as base, both inside and outside of the Middle East? I think it must start with a good understanding of the culture behind the dance, by condemning the culture or completely disregarding it in our art form, we have lost touch with our artistic role in society and thus have lost the ability to alter it. <\/li>\n<li><span class=\"articledate\">7-14-14<\/span> <a href=\"http:\/\/www.gildedserpent.com\/cms\/2014\/07\/14\/barbara-sellers-young-tribal-fest-14\/\" target=\"_blank\" class=\"articlelink\">A Refuge for Innovation, Tribal Fest 2014<\/a> <span class=\"articleauthor\">by Barbara Sellers-Young PhD<\/span><br \/>\n                    Although Tribal Fest is a live on stage, face-to-face event, it is the danced realization of a world in which the technological flows of transportation and communication bring images and bodies into correspondence with each other, and through the form create new images that move a global popular culture dialogue forward.                    <\/li>\n<\/ul><\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Is There Life After Dance? by Najia Marlyz posted October 17, 2014 A Yiddish proverb says: &ldquo;Men tracht, und Gott lacht.&rdquo; A rough translation of this proverb into English is: &ldquo;Men plan and God laughs.&rdquo;&#8230;or: &ldquo;If you want to hear God laugh, tell Him you have a plan!&rdquo;&#8211;quotation derived by Woody Allen Perhaps this was [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":7,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[92,107,147,202,82],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.gildedserpent.com\/cms\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5458"}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.gildedserpent.com\/cms\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.gildedserpent.com\/cms\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.gildedserpent.com\/cms\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/7"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.gildedserpent.com\/cms\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=5458"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"http:\/\/www.gildedserpent.com\/cms\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5458\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.gildedserpent.com\/cms\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=5458"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.gildedserpent.com\/cms\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=5458"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.gildedserpent.com\/cms\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=5458"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}